i have been separated, not legally for 8 months. he moved out. we have a 20 month old. I don't want the separation. I realized now what I did wrong and how I took hin for granted and I have tried to make things better but he does not want it. We have been together 10 yrs. married for 7. He has not statred the process to get legally separated. Should I do more to try to get him back? How do I let go???