Divorce Support Forums: Mind games

What? What are you talking about? Judges deciding that everything is civil? Lawyers being appointed to mental patients? OK... most ofthe emergencies that judges hear are criminal. Mental commitments are usually through teh probate court, though because of the commitment proceedings having teh potential to take away someone's freedom, so they're given free representation, usually by a local defender's office.

Are you suggesting this man try to commit his child? Well, I suppose that can happen if he wants, but not through the adult commitment procedures. That one will go through the juvenile/dependency procedures. Again, you're trying to comment on things that I don't know if you have a clue what you're saying.

And at this point, it doens't even look like it has any relevance to the conversation at hand. Except the civil commitment procedures. We know you threatened to do this to your wife, and I know of more than one situation where a man accused his wife of this to gain an advantage in the divorce... a few days with her kicked out of the house is a real boon. But it's a dirty tactic and I'd never suggest it. Just like I think it's nasty when a woman accuses a man of domestic violence for the same purpose.

I'm just not sure why you think you ahve something to add to this poor guy's situation. I'm sure with his son's problem, he's been through the wringer on figuring out how to handle it, and the emergency of the moment is more about trying to get a decision on waht kinds of professionals would be best to help his kids. Your hatred of lawyers and manipuations of the legal system are not the question, this man's family's problems are real. NOT a tactic.

My advice stands... A therapist recommended by his lawyer with a good reputation with teh court will probably help the judge make a good decision about how to handle the custody case. A read through of the current literature on parental alienation syndrome will help HIM figure out how to present his point of view to the therapist by showing him what items to focus on that the ex is doing (not to mention helping him figure out how not to do the same things, which is tough)... and a read of the literature on the various high conflict personality disorders might help him figure out how to continue with the ongoing issues that are bound to crop up forever, since his stbx seems to be a nutcase who needs special handling.

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