I had been married for 13 years to my second husband, 6 years younger than me. We have bought 3 houses and lived a comfortable life. Trips, new cars and we spent most of our together. He had never let me start a retirement plan because he said I was too old. I am now 51 years old. He always said that his retirement was ours. We had just purchased our third house and made the first payment on December 2005 and he walked out on me the 17th of December. He had started calling his girlfiend on Thanksgiving on his cell phone(while his parents were here for the holidays.) On December 10th, he called her again that night and the next day he informed his son that lived with us and his parents that he was asking me for a Divorce after the first of the year. I knew he was acting funny and I asked what was wrong and he said he was not happy. This was news to me. The following Saturday, he had switched checking accounts, changed his deposits, talked to an attorney and rented a place within 1 week. The private eye I hired started watching him the following week. The PI caught him at her house after work at 11:30 PM. The cell phone records show him calling her at work before he got off etc. He is still claiming he is innocent. He has not helped me pay the house payment and his attorney has told not to. I am really struggling because our debt was based on 2 incomes. My attorney said for me to get anything out of him, I will probably have to sue. His girlfriend is divorced and works with him and has had affairs with 5 different guys on the job, one lasted 7 1/2 years and they were both married to different people and during this time she had 2 kids. What would entice a man to give up everything he had for a woman of this nature? What is the odds of it working out for them? I don't want him but I just don't understand and I am going to counseling, taking Lexopro and Amien to sleep. I have lost 38 pounds and it is just so hard to hold my head and know it will work out for me. How long is it going to take for me to accept the hurt and feeling so stupid and not see this coming? Will I ever be able to trust again. He was my knight in shining armor. I sure that there is nothing that she has done that I didn't. Now I hear they are looking at house plans to build on a lot that she got out of her only marriage. Everyone is shocked. I really don't know how to handle this. I'm trying but it is killing me inside. Everyone says it will get better,for me to get out and meet someone. I am out in the community but when you love someone and he left you like you had Aids, how can anyone expect you to just start another relaionship so easy. I was married the first time to my childhood sweetheart for 20 years and left him because of drug abuse. I just have not had very good luck at picking men. Both took me for granted because they knew my values. I guess there is just no need for good girls anymore in this world. Does anyone else feel the same way?
-------------------- Is there any room for good girls anymore?
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