I am brand new at this- married for almost 20 years, have 4 kids, and found out about my husbands affair- and a week later he moves out to live with her. (they've only known each other for 6 month- affair started 3 months ago). I am in shock- he claims i emotionally abused him for 20 years and he's never been happy! It's been 6 weeks and he still hasn't filed for divorce. I am just living in limbo! I can't stand this- I won't file because i don't want a divorce. I am a Christian, and choose to believe in God's Word. any thoughts or words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. anyone else been through anything like this? thanks