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Frequently Asked Questions About Visitation
Do all spouses have the right to visitation?
Typically the spouse who does not have physical custody of the child has the legal right to visitation. These rights can be withheld if evidence can be brought forth proving that it is in the best interest of the child not to see the spouse ( examples: excessive use of alcohol, physical or verbal abusiveness). The amount and schedule of visitation is stated in the final agreement.
Can a visitation schedule be modified?
Visitation schedules are often established as a test. Either spouse does not know what the future will tell as far as how their parent child relationship will grow. Typically visitation schedules do change and it is done with out the use of the court, but if need be the court will make a decision if a spouse is being deprived of visitation rights.
What should I do if my child does not want to see me?
This is a very difficult situation, especially when the child is very young. In all fairness, hopefully the custodial parent is not influencing the child. This,however, does occur quite often. It is the child's choice to see the estranged parent, so fighting this situation can be a real up hill battle.
How do I make the most out of the time with my child?
Be sure to give the child as much of an explanation as possible, and be there to answer any questions. The typical estranged parent will try to make up a two week period of time in one weekend. This is probably the best attitude to have, but do not involve it with overwhelming presents , because when children grow up they began to understand the power of money and how it is used to influence people.
How can I keep a close relationship from a far?
A phone call at the appropriate time can be as meaningful as any visit. Also consider using e-mail to correspond. Most colleges and universities offer this to students, so if your child is away at school this can be something he or she looks forward to every week.
How can I get to know my child again?
Going through a divorce can really hurt relationships and sometimes rebuilding them can be a long drawn out process. Don't expect it to happen over night, and try to do things that will bring you closer. Try having your child bring a friend along on a weekend adventure, this allows the child to be more comfortable.
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