Archive for September, 2011

Childlessness and Divorce

Tuesday, September 27th, 2011

At least 66% of all the divorced couples in America are childless. This is also one of the main reasons of getting divorced, according to experts. Statistics also reveal that couples with children have lower chances of getting divorced than childless people

A new study by the Centers for Disease Control reveals some surprising statistics about love marriage. Namely, if you want your love to last, get married. And then have some children.

The Marriage and Cohabitation Study, which began in 2002, tracked the relationships of 12,571 men and women ages 15 to 44. Of those, over 40 percent were married and 9 percent were living together. According to the study, marriages without children had only a 34 percent chance of lasting 10 years, compared with 79 percent for those where woman gave birth eight or more months after getting married.

Despite the studies, including one by the Childless by Choice Project study, that suggest that couples without children are motivated to remain married without children because of marital satisfaction, the risk of divorce remains. In fact, childfree couples are just as likely to divorce as couples with children.

However, an article entitled “Modern Marriage Risks Amplified by Children,” which was published in Unscripted, states that divorce is much less problematic for the childless. Writes J. Bushnell: “[N]onparent couples don’t have to stick out a bad or abusive relationship for fear of supporting a household or raising children alone. Unlike parents, childfree couples don’t have to worry about how a divorce will impact children; instead, they can split their assets 50/50, move on, and even move away, without concerns about taking a child away from its school district or nonresidential parent.”

Bushnell also notes that the risks of divorce are much higher for women than for men if they have children. “As 80% of children live with their mother following a divorce, perhaps women should seriously consider before starting a family whether they are equipped to parent alone one day if their marriage fails. Because single motherhood is clearly a very strong possibility. Imagine a drive-through wedding chapel in Las Vegas and the Elvis impersonator/ordained minister who is about to marry you asks, “You have a fifty-fifty chance of ending up as single mother, are you still going to say ‘I do’ and have kids with this guy?”

Ten Signs a Spouse is Having an Online Affair

Wednesday, September 7th, 2011

Ace private investigator Bill Mitchell of South Carolina has published a guide to catch a spouse who is having an online affair.

In “One Clues of an Online Affair- Catch a Cheating Spouse!”, Mitchell suggests that these are 10 telltale signs of marital infidelity online:

1. Your spouse or partner spends excessive time surfing the Internet.

2. Passwords, instant message “buddy lists,” Internet email accounts and emails are concealed or even protected from you.

3. Your partner abruptly shuts off the Internet and/or computer when you approach.

4. The computer and monitor are always positioned to avoid your scrutiny.

5. The Internet history is cleared every day, including chat sessions, instant messaging, or your spouse downloads software that automatically overrides this information.

6. Your spouse uses the computer after you go to bed, when you fall asleep, or in the middle of the night.

7. Your spouse exhibits a compulsive need to be online and seems defensive when confronted to stop.

8. Your spouse shares personal information, photos and events with strangers online.

9. He or she plays online games and frequents “personals” chat rooms.

10. Your spouse exhibits the eight warning signs described in The More You know – Getting the Evidence and Support You Need to Investigate a Troubled Relationship.