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Divorce in the Golden Years Requires Planning

Monday, November 9th, 2009

Divorce among those approaching their so-called “golden years” is much more common than it used to be, but spouses who decide to ride to the sunset on separate horses should consider the timing. These considerations make the drafting of prenuptial agreements for those over 50 more challenging.

The remarriage penalties that come with Social Security should always be remembered. A person receives Social Security 1) based on his or her contributions to the Social Security System and 2) as a spouse of a contributor receiving what is termed “derivative benefits.” After a divorce, a spouse can receive benefits based on the contributions of a former spouse as long as the marriage lasted 10 years. When this is the case, the spouse whose marriage is approaching the 10-year mark should at least consider delaying the divorce. This is often a consideration for the stay-at-home mother who left the work force early in life to be a homemaker. If she remarries, derivative benefits are not available from the contributing spouse. If the dependent spouse has married more than once and each time for 10 or more years, the derivative benefits come from the contributing spouse with the higher benefits.

Derivative Social Security benefits may be available if the former spouse predeceases the dependent spouse. This are widow(er) benefits. The couple need to be married at least 10 years, and the surviving spouse need be only 60, or, if disabled, 50. A dependent spouse in this situation would do well to reconsider if he or she plans to remarry before turning 60. In this case, the surviving spouse receives 100 percent of the benefits, instead of the 50 percent if the former spouse is alive.

Very often alimony awards assume the dependent spouse becomes eligible for Social Security at 65. However, it is important to remember that full benefits apply at different ages: 65 is the normal retirement age for those born before 1937, but after that, the age of normal retirement increases by two-month steps for those born between 1938 to 1960. For those born in 1960 or later, normal retirement is 67. However, reduced benefits are available at 62. The reduction is 20 percent. When a divorced dependent spouse takes benefits at 62, the reduction is 25 percent. Medicare benefits do not begin at age group until 65.

What is means is that any alimony reductions contemplated at 62 should be weighed carefully because it means a significant lifetime loss of benefits, and that provisions must be made for medical benefits until normal retirement.

Pensions provide for a joint and survivor annuity to be paid to the surviving spouse after the death of the participant. If the pension with a joint and survivor annuity is in pay status, there are two assets: the payment to the participant and the joint and survivor annuity.

Divorcing Women Getting Taken to the Cleaners

Thursday, November 6th, 2008

One issue that plagues divorcing couples is finances. Women, you need to know what finances go through the home. Do not fall victim to the “ignorance is bliss” attitude when it comes to finances. Letting your spouse take care of all the financial aspects of the marriage/household is fine but you must know about the finances should divorce ever become a possibility. If you do not know what debts or assets you have, how can you benefit from them? Or, what debts out there in your marriage can come back to haunt you?

Not knowing about your finances is an easy way to get taken to the cleaners. Your spouse can easily hide assets quickly as you never knew they existed. Arm yourself with knowledge, before the possibility of a divorce. You may never need the information, but what happens if you find yourself in need of it? Will your spouse willingly give up the financial information? You cannot bank on a friendly divorce. It is a goal to be sure, but not an absolute.

Homosexual Marriages and Divorce

Monday, October 27th, 2008

According to the Defense of Marriage Act in 1996, there is no agency of the federal government that recognizes same-sex marriages. However, on a state level, Massachusetts, California and Connecticut recognize same-sex marriages and Vermont, New Jersey, New Hampshire, Maine, Hawaii, Washington, DC, Oregon and Washington State created “legal unions” for same-sex couples wishing to have what could be termed a “marriage” with similar marriage rights or limited rights under marriage.

So now you are married. You and your spouse are having problems and want to seek a divorce. Is a same-sex couple afforded the same rights and/or responsibilities as a heterosexual couple when it comes to divorce? The answer is not as clear cut as one would think.

Since not all states recognize same-sex marriages, and no federal agency recognizes same-sex marriage, it is difficult to say how to best proceed with divorce. Seeking the advice of a lawyer who has experience in same-sex marriages or divorce would be very sapient. A lawyer who has experience in this field would be able to protect you in a divorce and advise you as to what you are or are not entitled to.

Parental Behavior During and After Divorce

Monday, October 20th, 2008

When a couple divorce it is easy to put the children in the middle of disputes. However, the couple must love their children more than they hate each other. Allowing children to be used as pawns in a divorce action is no different than child abuse.

Parental alienation is very quickly utilized when a mother will say, “if your father would only give me more money then I could buy you that outfit”, or “see, your father never picks you up when he says he will”. Rather than push the child away from their parent, it would best serve the adults and more importantly the children, for parents to get along as best as possible.

Remember, adults are the decision makers here, children don’t usually have a say in whether the parents should or should not divorce; nor should they. The children should be protected in every way possible before, during and after the divorce. It is the parents’ duty to facilitate this.

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Divorcing a Missing Spouse

Friday, October 13th, 2006

We hear from many spouses who are trying to get a divorce, but they do not no the whereabouts of their spouse. This is a common situation, especially if you have been separated for quite some time. The process for divorcing a missing spouse is somewhat more complicated and lengthy do to extra procedures one must follow. This type of divorce is commonly referred to as a “Divorce by Publication”.

A “Divorce by Publication” requires a spouse to prove to the court that he or she has made a legitimate attempt to local his or her husband or wife. In order to fulfill the requirements of the court a public legal notice announcing the filing of the divorce must be placed in the newspaper for a specified period of time (typically 30 days).

We suggest going through the following steps to try to locate your spouse. Who knows you may already be divorced.

1. Contact Friends and Family.
2. Call Information.
3. Contact Past Employers.
4. Do a Search Report at ussearch.com

If you do find your spouse, you can have him or her professionally served with your divorce paperwork. This will almost always speed up the process. What ever you do, do not intentionally avoid finding your spouse.

From Separation to Divorce

Tuesday, March 7th, 2006

During the separation period, that time prior to the divorce, there are several do’s and dont’s that are highly recommended by most divorce lawyers. Of course each case is unique, but in most situations you are better safe than sorry.

First. Make sure all joint bank and credit card accounts have been closed or frozen. This will prevent you or your spouse from dissipating marital assets. The court does not look fondly upon this action, and will certainly penalize the spouse that does so.

Second. Try to secure your own means of financial support. If you need to rely on friends or family until the divorce is final then do so.

Third. Do not date or live with your boy or girlfriend. This could easily hurt your case, especially if your are involved in a custody battle or are being accused of adultery or abandonment.

Fourth. If you have hired a divorce lawyer, make sure you tell him or her everything. Leaving things out, will ultimately end up being a surprise in court which your lawyer will not be prepared for.

First Steps of Your Divorce

Friday, February 10th, 2006

Once you find out you or your spouse is going to file for a divorce there are a few highly recommended things you take care of as soon as possible.

Any joint bank accounts or joint credit cards should be closed. You obviously need to take into consideration your future need for funds, but do your best to close or cease activity on these accounts. Many divorcing spouses make the mistake of not doing this, only to find out a few months later that their soon-to-be-ex has accumulated a ton of debt in their name or has liquidated a savings account.

You want to consider contacting a divorce lawyer in your area as soon as possible. If it is going to be a very amicable divorce, you certainly may want to do your own divorce, but unless you are comfortable about what your are about to experience, the knowledge and expertise of a divorce lawyer could be very beneficial.

If you have children, you want to devise a plan on how you are going to tell them about the divorce. You also want to make sure you notify any teachers, baby-sitters, etc., so they can help monitor their behavior during what can be a very tough time.

Working with the Family Law County Clerk

Thursday, February 2nd, 2006

The County Court Clerk or Clerk of the Court is the person who will be facilitating your divorce. This is the person you or your divorce lawyer will be filing your divorce paperwork with at you local county courthouse.

As a rule of thumb, the Clerk and any of the assistants at the courthouse will not be able to provide any type of legal advice, so tread cautiously when you ask questions. Certain Clerks and assistants are willing to help with questions regarding the filing procedure, but asking questions about the contents of the documents is typically out of the question.

If you are not getting the answers you need, you can certainly contact your lawyer or you can save yourself some money in legal fees by going to the county courthouse library. The county courthouse library is typically open to the public, and the librarian may be able to point you in the right direction to get the answers you need.

Getting a Copy of Your Divorce Certificate

Wednesday, January 25th, 2006

Getting a divorce certificate is not difficult, but it does require patience.

Here is a break down of the process:

- Your divorce certificate can be retrieved from the County Court in which you were divorced. There is typically a record department within the family law or domestic relations division.

- If they do not have record of the divorce, there is a possibility that the divorce was pushed to a surrounding county court due to case overload at the time. (this means that you can also check surrounding counties)

- Please keep in mind, that most court houses charge a search fee if you do not know the case number. Your success will be much greater if you do know the case number and the turn around time will be much faster.

- Once the case is found, it takes about anywhere from 1 week to 4 weeks by mail or can be retrieved in person that same day.

To find out the exact turn around time and cost per copy, you can call the county court house. Also keep in mind, some counties charge more for a certified copy of your certificate and/or final divorce decree or judgment.

Wecome to the Divorce Support Blog

Tuesday, January 3rd, 2006

Our new divorce blog will gradually become a very excited part of our support site as our editors and contributing divorce professionals make their daily posts on the many facets of the divorce experience. We look forward to what this new addition will have to offer. :-)