Are conflict and anger signs that a marriage is failing?

If it has gotten to the point where the spouses cannot stand the sight of one another, yes, that’s a definite warning sign of a marriage in trouble. If spouses no longer want to be with each other, or if one thinks the other cannot do anything right, the marriage is probably in trouble.

But conflict and even anger in themselves come with the turf. "People need to let off steam and air their differences. When they don’t, they’re in for trouble. The fact is, the best single predictor of divorce is the constant avoidance of conflict!" writes Michele Weiner Davis, the author of The Divorce Remedy.