How do my spouse and I devise a visitation schedule?

The vast majority of parents create a visitation arrangement through mediation and/or negotiations. The issues related to the visitation schedule rarely go to court for the judge to decide. Many states require "parenting plans," which lay out the details of custody and visitation. Many times a judge will prescribe "reasonable" visitation, or "liberal" visitation, without further definition or advice. It is then up to the parents to come up with a viable visitation schedule within the separation agreement and/or parenting plan.

Your visitation schedule should be in writing so that both you and your ex-spouse agree to it and understand the details. This will prevent misunderstandings, confusion, possible resentment, and likely, litigation in the future. It will also help the child(ren) to understand the schedule, so there may be a sense of order and stability in their lives.