Is the mediator like a judge?

No, the mediator is not like a judge, as you probably understand a judge’s role from television or movies. The mediator does not render a decision; he or she acts as a facilitator to help people in their negotiations. The mediator is well aware of the laws in your state and understands how the courts typically rule in certain decisions. He or she will share this knowledge in order to persuade you in a direction that both parties are happy. A mediator shows divorcing spouses just how important the "give and take" philosophy is in reaching an agreeable divorce settlement.