Concerns about the first naked encounter are vastly different for men and women. Women fear sharing the site of their bodies. Many of us have had children and inwardly know, the old gray mare just ain’t what she used to be, but in time this inhibition subsides. For men it’s a performance thing. Men wonder if women will think they are suave and have concerns whether or not they can please her.
During my first naked encounter with someone new, I wept the entire time, but back then I would cry at cartoons and commercials. That tells you how ready I was. I was an emotional wreck. Fortunately, he was a friend and just held me.
We usually choose a friend for our first naked encounter, someone safe, just to jump-start our heart again. A fibulator friend is sometimes just what the doctor ordered.
Even though this person is a friend to us, we know and they know we are not soul mates. When everyone is on the same page, this can be the psuedo relationship that pulls us through this stage.
Information provided by:
Tomi Tuel, Author of 101 Things I Learned After My Divorce