No matter how long you have been divorced hearing how your ex has married someone after you, can send a jolt through you. I have heard of cases where people who have been divorced for several years still feel a twinge when they hear this news. Fleeting as it may be, it is still hard.
Of course the less time you have been divorced the more the news stings. In my case we had only been divorced for 3 weeks when I found out he had remarried. When his sister called me to tell me she had some bad news about him, I thought she was going to tell me he had been in an accident. When she finished, I think I could have handled the news about an accident better.
No one in his family knew about his marriage until it was over. I never will never forget everyone’s shock, needless to say my own, when they heard the news. His mother told me she was in the drive thru line at Wendy’s when after ordering her food she paused to ponder what he had done. She stopped to pay for her food and then in a dither kept on driving through forgetting her food. When I heard the news it was as if my internal battery went dead. Although I knew our marriage had ended, I wasn’t ready for the news. The finality of our divorce was summed up by that one act.
Information provided by:
Tomi Tuel, Author of 101 Things I Learned After My Divorce