What is mediation?

The idea behind mediation is to have a trained professional (the mediator) help defuse the emotional tension between the two parties and find areas of agreement that the parties may not have realized existed. Keep in mind that if mediation does not result in a settlement, all the hard work and expense of litigation still lies ahead. If your would-be ex insists on being in total control or is abusive, you might be better off bypassing these alternative forms of dispute resolution if you can.