What should someone do if they want to ask for a divorce?

Be prepared for a difficult time. Even under the best of conditions, divorce is a trip through an emotional meat grinder. After the other spouse has been told, the mechanics of divorce -- including, but limited do, the calculation of the marital estate, the custody and support arrangements -- often can and do take nasty turns. The spouse who initiated the action may feel relief at first and only later, when the wheels of the marital dissolution have begun to grind and crush, feel unexpected remorse and sadness.