Archive for April, 2012

Never Too Late to Untie the Knot

Thursday, April 26th, 2012

Most folks assume that after three-quarters of a century as man and wife, Antonio and Rosa would be immune from divorce and set to enjoy their golden years and the passage into the great beyond. But unfortunately that’s not the case for the Italian couple that is divorcing at the ripe old ages of 99 and 96. After 77 years of marriage, a 99-year-old man (identified only as “Antonio C.”) filed for divorce in Italy on grounds of infidelity.

A few days before Christmas, he was searching through an old chest of drawers and found some letters that his wife, Rosa, 96, had written to a secret lover. He became so upset by his discovery — even though the affair had happened way back in the 1940s — that he immediately told Rosa he wanted a divorce. She tried to convince him otherwise, but there was no dissuading the cuckolded man.

The break-up upset to the couple’s five children, 12 grandchildren, and 1 great-grandchild, who came to take their elders’ marriage for granted since it’s lasted for the better part of eight decades. Though they did have a small hint of trouble ten years ago when they hit a rough patch. Antonio briefly moved to live with one of his sons, but he moved back in with Rosa a few weeks later. This split –if it ends up going through — will beat the previous old person divorce record, which was held by a British couple, Bertie and Jessie Wood, who ended their marriage when they were 98. But they’d only been married for 36 years, which certainly pales in comparison to Rosa and Antonio’s 77-year union.

Cancer and Divorce

Wednesday, April 11th, 2012

Cervical and testicular cancer patients have a much higher risk of broken marriages, a Norwegian study found. The study said that wives with cervical cancer are 40 percent more likely to divorce than healthy women and husbands with testicular cancer are 20 percent more likely.

Researchers say these cancers often affect younger patients, who could be vulnerable to the stress that naturally follows a diagnosis. In contrast, older couples have been together longer and may be more committed. These cancers are also more likely to derange plans for parenthood, and these cancers may be more damaging because sexual relationships are important in cementing a marriage.

“It seems to be worse for your marriage to get cancer early,” said Astri Syse, who led the study from the Norwegian Cancer Registry.

Researchers looked at data on 2.8 million people in Norway from 1974 to 2001, including 215,000 cancer survivors. Then they compared the divorce rates of the survivors with couples who were cancer-free. Overall, cancer patients had lower rates of divorce than other couples. But when they looked at specific malignancies, cervical and testicular were exceptions.

Support Must Be Paid

Wednesday, April 4th, 2012

Child support must be paid, and the custodial parent may not deny the supporting parent visitation is he or she does not pay.

This situation comes up when the noncustodial parent, who is usually that father, falls behind in his child support, and the custodial parent, who is usually the mother, decides that his delinquency justifies shutting him out of his children’s lives. This she cannot do. In the eyes of the judge, child support and child visitation are separate issues. Courts frown on parents even attempting to use one to leverage the other. Child support is not payment for the privilege of visitation. A custodial mother whose former husband fails to pay child support must go to court; she cannot take matters in her own hands with a lockout.

Denying visitation may make the equally ill-informed noncustodial parent feel justified about not paying child support.