Archive for August, 2012

Safe Sex After Long-Term Marriages

Friday, August 24th, 2012

Most people don’t want to jump right from divorce into another committed relationship. There is nothing wrong with this, but for those who come out of long-term marriages seem take it for granted that just because they have not spent years sleeping around they are safe from sexually transmitted diseases. When they begin to date and enjoy the company of the opposite sex, casual dating leads to casual sex because older divorced folks are dating older divorced folks. There is a dangerous assumption that just because someone is older and was in long- term marriage that there is no need to use protection when engaging in a sexual relationship.

Women past child bearing years are especially at risk for sexually transmitted diseases because they feel that since they can no longer become pregnant that a condom isn’t needed. They fail to realize that it isn’t about becoming pregnant. When a person sleeps with someone, he or she is sleeping with every partner his or her partner had.

Casual sex is unsafe at any age. In a survey conducted by the University of Chicago it was found that nearly 60 percent of unmarried women ages 58 to 93 said they didn’t use a condom. On Ohio University stud found hat about 27 percent of HIV-infected men and 35 percent of HIV-infected women over the age of 50 sometimes have sex without using condoms.

It pays to play it safe according to those statistics.

Making Divorce More Difficult

Wednesday, August 8th, 2012

Divorce reform advocates at the Coalition for Divorce Reform think making divorces harder to obtain would save the government billions of dollars. A story in the Washington Times reports that the Coalition for Divorce Reform makes the case for a legislative plan that will attempt to reduce divorce rates by a full third in just five years. The Coalition maintains that more Americans want to make divorce more legally difficult than the number of people who think divorce should be easier and that just one single parent family resulting from divorce can cost the government about $25,000 a year, making the annual toll an expense of between $33 billion and $112 billion a year.

Although state divorce reform legislation is uncommon these days and very few couples are expected to voluntarily enter into more restrictive marriages, most states have tried to make divorce easier in the past decade as evidenced by New York’s recent passage of no-fault divorce laws. Reformers at the Coalition for Divorce Reform say the societal consequences of divorce are obvious factors indicating the need for more restrictive laws. The Coalition points out that studies have shown the children of divorced parents are handicapped economically and prevented from reaching higher-income levels. It also cites research from Pennsylvania State University that shows if America had the same level of divorce as it did in 1960, there would be 70,000 fewer suicides, 600,000 fewer children undergoing therapy, 500,000 fewer acts of teenage delinquency, 750,000 fewer children repeating grades, and 1.2 million fewer school suspensions each year.

Although the Coalition for Divorce Reform says that the savings to taxpayers would be dramatic, it is very likely that the organization is going to have a tough time selling its plan to make divorce more difficult and restrictive in the current weakened economy.

Trial Marriages Proposed

Wednesday, August 1st, 2012

Lawmakers from the Party of the Democratic Revolution in Mexico City recently proposed a controversial new bill that would allow temporary marriage licenses, which can be discarded or renewed after a minimum two-year period. 

If the legislation allowing temporary marriages is fully approved, it would allow Mexican couples to get a marriage license with an expiration date of a minimum two years. The bill would then allow couples to terminate the marriage if they do not renew their marriage contract. Couples could also opt to renew their contracts and continue to stay married. 

Proponents of the bill point out that half of all marriages end already now end in divorce in Mexico City, and the new proposal would simply eliminate the need for couples to get a costly formal divorce unless they wanted to end their marriage before the two year limit was up. The Party contends that when the two-year trial period is up, if a relationship is not stable or harmonious, the contract would simply expire and eliminate the need of divorce. The Party added that because two years is the minimum amount of time it takes to know and appreciate what life is like as a couple, those who did renew their contracts would have a better understanding of their partners.

Not everyone is thrilled with the new proposal. A spokesman for the Mexican archdiocese said the proposal is absurd and that it contradicts the nature of marriage. Other critics say it would promote a culture of disposability in a predominantly Catholic country where pre-marital sex is not looked on with favor. The critics contend that the concept of getting married for just two years could be an open invitation for men who have no long-term commitments in mind to try out a number of different sexual partners that they see only as temporary wives.