Archive for October, 2012

The Money Test

Friday, October 19th, 2012

Here are six areas to consider as a test the financial compatibility of a man and woman:

Talk money without arguing. The couple can openly discuss finances without arguing and blaming each other.

Not controlled. One partner does not control the other when it comes to finances.

A good look at the other’s credit report. Sharing a credit history is a huge sign of financial trust in a relationship. It’s unavoidable, when buying or even renting a home together, and a good place to get equal footing.

Paying the bills on time. Prompt payment of bills is a sign of financial maturity.

No fears about the future. It takes time to really get to know how another person views the future, particularly money management through the years. How two people management money often determines the success or failure of the relationship.

Handle the worst. Knowing how a person handles a financial crisis says a lot about that person.

A Few Reasons Why Most Divorces Are Initiated By Women

Monday, October 1st, 2012

Here are reasons woman initiate divorces:

Relief From a Bad Marriage: A woman’s happiness is no longer tied to whether or not she is married. There was a time when, to be happy a woman though she had to be married. Such a mindset led women to believe they were “stuck” in a marriage that had gone bad.

Escape Domestic Abuse: Women are less likely to stay in an abusive marriage today. At one time a woman had no choice but to stay.

Fewer Women are Financially Dependent on a Husband: Women are more likely to have their own career. Even stay at home moms have college decrees and marketable skills.

Women are Less Tolerant of Infidelity: Due to her financial security and her ability to identify what makes her happy, women’s expectations of their husband are higher. One of those expectations is fidelity and today, fewer women are willing to accept infidelity.

Women Want More Out of Marriage: A generation ago, women wanted to be supported, to become mothers and cheerleaders for their husband’s career. Women put their needs on the back burner for the sake of the marriage. Today women want their needs met.

Women Loose Their Identity: Some wives spend so much time focused on raising children helping their husband further his career and putting their needs last that they lose sight of who they are and what they want out of life. It is not unusual for a woman to hit middle age and go into a midlife crisis. She will begin to question the life she has led and wonder, “Is that all there is?” She may file for a divorce in order to explore life on her own in the hope of finding out who she is and what she wants out of life.