Archive for the 'Saving Your Marriage' Category

Men Lend a Hand, Save a Marriage

Thursday, July 21st, 2011

A British study of 3,500 British couples published recently suggests that couples where the man helps out with housework, shopping and childcare have lower divorce rates.

“Men’s Unpaid Work and Divorce,” which was published by the London School of Economics (LSE), found that the more husbands helped out, the lower the incidence of divorce.

The research said its conclusions undermined the theory running since the 1960s that marriages were most stable when men focused on paid work and women were responsible for housework. The study concluded that “[t]he lowest-risk combination is one in which the mother does not work and the father engages in the highest level of housework and childcare.”

Researcher Wendy Sigle-Rushton said while economists have spent much time examining and trying to explain the link between women going to work and divorce rates, “they have paid very little attention to the behavior of men. This research… suggests that fathers’ contribution to unpaid work at home stabilizes marriage regardless of mothers’ employment status.”

The study analyzed married couples that had their first child in 1970, a time when most mothers of young children stayed at home. “The results suggest that the risk of divorce among working mothers, while greater, is substantially reduced when fathers contribute more to housework and childcare,” she said.

It’s Worth the Effort (Sometimes)

Friday, April 1st, 2011

Ellen Goodman, the columnist, once observed that as divorce became more socially acceptable society had more divorces to accept. The liberalization of divorce, which began in California in 1969 when Gov. Ronald Reagan (himself a divorced man) signed into law the nation’s first no-fault divorce law, seemed an idea whose time had come. By the end of the 1970s, every state has some form of no-fault divorce. No jurisdiction has even taken serious steps toward reversing that.

That said, however, couples contemplating divorce should make certain that they are at the end of the line.

Divorce is one of the most stressful life experiences. It is terribly dislocating, and it is a greater destroyer of wealth. Children suffer terribly when their parents separate. Divorce, even when it is necessary, does not make people happy.

Most couples, even those who are intact, have in their marriages probably thought about packing it in.